Unearthing Pakistan’s secrets one ‘why’ at a time…
Trustworthiness and how it relates to Pakistan’s ‘why’
I’m sure you’ve heard a million times about how you need to be an honest and trustworthy person.
How you can’t cheat, deceive, or lie to anyone in order to make an honest living.
A lot of this has to do with a precursor in our behavior that has to do with “fair play” which is also known as survivor’s guilt.
Not a lot is taught to us in schools because schools are nothing more than business factories which make money for the system so that it can continue to ravage people and destroy their lives without them ever knowing.
One can be an honest person all they like, but trust is the emotion that builds that connection or fills the gap that you need in order to make a strong connection with the world around you.
This connection is not formed immediately or found right away like you do with other aspects of a character like reliability and honesty.
You only need one piece of evidence to establish that a person is somewhat honest and/or reliable or deceitful and/or unreliable.
But you need consistent pieces of evidence or phases of tests (as I like to call them) in order to establish that a person is indeed worthy of your trust.
The hard part is that you can’t exactly measure an emotion.
You’re reading this article because to some degree you trust that we at the Citizen Awareness Program are giving you solid intel and therefore can be established as a group of trustworthy individuals.
But what if we made one sudden “mistake” that might indicate to you that we’re not as trustworthy as we sound?
How will your opinion of us change? Will you stop reading our articles? Perhaps stop other people from reading our material too?
Or will you spread a bad word about us and help us grow in notoriety?
Perhaps the more desirable scenario is true and you’ll put a good word in for us, earning us many more readers and loyal fans…?
We don’t know, all we can really do is give you the available information in the most refined form possible.
We don’t do this because we have some ulterior motive, but because we have an overt agenda.
We do this because we believe in helping the human race get back on its feet and redistribute the wealth in a manner most suitable to the welfare of humanity.
All we can really do is tell you what we believe and let you decide whether you believe in our story enough to trust us in some way.
Trustworthiness and Pakistan’s ‘why’…
Now that a semi-long lecture is out of the way, let’s talk more about ‘why’ Pakistan exists.
The real reason why trustworthiness is infused in the basic tenets of Pakistan’s constitution.
Let’s take another leap through time and look at what I call the relative past.
If I’m to borrow Einstein’s theory of general relativity, I may claim that the past, the present, and the future are all relative.
Meaning they will remain the same no matter what kind of systems are introduced within their inner workings unless a sustainable change is introduced.
Why do you think that trusting your spouse is very hard to do, yet a stranger passing by the street may invoke strong feelings of trust almost immediately?
The reason for that is simple: your spouse doesn’t know how to stimulate your brain enough to know how to build trust with you, whereas the stranger does to some level that’s higher than that of your spouse’s.
I’m not saying that your spouse is a bad person or that a stranger is a good person.
For all intents and purposes the spouse could be a person who has never hurt anyone in their life, meanwhile, the stranger might have just hidden the body of a young child in their car’s trunk after raping them.
The point here is one doesn’t know how to invoke feelings of trust and the other one does.
How do we know to quantify something as complex as an emotion? Do we really make a decision based on facts and figures?
Consider this: if you were presented with all the facts and figures of how many people smoking kills each year are you likely to quit smoking?
Perhaps not as much as when instead of giving you facts and figures I tell you the gruesome tale of my imaginary friend Haseeb who got lung cancer in 3 months because of chain smoking and died a horrible and painful death in a hospital bed cursing his destiny and the cigarette company that killed him….
In the first example I demonstrated that I’m reliable and honest, hence you asked me: “So what?!”
In the second example, however, I established trust with you, so you’re better able to relate to my facts and figures and say: “Yes, smoking is bad for my health and I’ll make an active effort into quitting this habit as soon as possible!”
The first example gives you the “what” behind the cigarette smoking, meanwhile the second example gives you the ‘why’ behind it.
Similarly, our founding fathers made ample provisions within the constitution of Pakistan in order to help us understand ‘why’ Pakistan should have to hold ‘trustworthiness’ above all things.
My grandfather didn’t know Quaid personally, nor did he particularly think of anything of him.
He was given the call by the Quaid to migrate to Pakistan based on an announcement, and he made that journey.
Not because he thought that Quaid was honest, but because he trusted him enough to be vulnerable for him.
He let his guard down and trusted the leader to have his back and let God carry him the rest of the way.
That’s a big part of why he witnessed the Muslim genocide in India of 1947 first hand.
Trustworthiness and loyalty are what makes a man (or woman) worth their words.
If a deceitful person would have claimed we needed to have Pakistan in order to preserve our freedoms you probably would have never believed them and Pakistan would have never formed in the first place.
But Quaid was a trustworthy person, hence every Muslim in India followed him to Pakistan.
Trustworthiness transformed – how to incorporate trust back into leadership
We all know from our readings and experience that trust is the fundamental building block of relationships.
Then how come our leaders are not incorporating any of that in their speeches and actions?
Simple: they don’t have to because you’re not demanding that they do – collectively as a unified front of the citizenry.
Frankly speaking, most citizens prefer shallow and unrealistic pursuits instead of deeper and more wholesome ones.
This unfortunate turn of events has left many asking the question: “when will this crisis end?”
This crisis won’t end…partly because the citizens themselves haven’t taken it upon themselves to make their lives better.
And partly because they themselves have let some persona non-grata brazenly rape the land and grievously impoverish the rest of the populace for their own selfish gains.
Trust is an emotional exercise, not a physical one or even an academic pursuit.
You have to learn to be trustworthy and teach others to earn your trust.
That’s exactly what our founding fathers did by creating Pakistan.
They openly expressed their beliefs and when they saw that their beliefs aligned with the vast majority of Muslims in the subcontinental India, they acted post-haste and made sure that Pakistan came to be on the foundations of trust, loyalty, and hard work from the very beginning.
Work, work, and more work is the motto of Pakistan, we have a lot more to achieve still now that we have our very own country to call home. I expect every Pakistani to work hard in order to get Pakistan closer to the goals which it has set out to achieve
– The Great Leader (Quaid e Azam) Muhammad Ali Jinnah
If honesty and reliability are the platforms upon which a relationship is built, trust is the ladder that allows it scale.
Pakistan’s constitution begins with article 1:
No Law made within the jurisdiction of Islamic Republic of Pakistan can be outside the guidelines of what is defined in Koran and Sunnah (of the Prophet)
– Constitution of Pakistan Article 1
This is the level of trust which the citizens of old had with the founding fathers.
They were leaders who led, not “leaders” who command authority.
They were leaders who sacrificed their today for our tomorrow, not “leaders” who regularly throw us under the bus for their own selfish gains.
Their leadership showed charisma because it came from the heart, or rather the limbic brain…it came from a well defined ‘why’ so everyone understood their motives and agenda.
When the call to migrate to Pakistan was made, a massive population of Muslims responded.
Which unfortunately resulted in the genocide of nearly 5 million Muslims and abduction and rape of 2 million Muslim women.
No one talks about this genocide because it was Muslims that it happened to – not Jews (it’s still doubtful to this day that Hitler actually killed 6 million Jews).
But hey! We’re just saying….
It was this same trust that allowed the Kennedy administration to reach the moon and come back safely too.
This is the same trust that the Samurai of old ways (Bushido) followed by choosing to disembowel themselves when Japan lost the World War II.
This is the same trust that Alexander of Macedonia commanded from his lieutenants and Generals.
This is the same trust that allowed Khalid bin Walid (RA) to remain undefeated in all the battles he fought over his lifetime, including the ones he f0ught against Muslims.
Trust is not built over the course of one day or even a week…it has to be built over a consistent period of time.
Consistency is key towards everything that we do in our life.
It permeates all our actions and ideas.
No one person can have bad ideas if all they do is consistently say and act in a manner that suits what they idealize.
No one person can ever hope to achieve even an iota of success if all they say and act is nothing and don’t idealize regularly that which they hold dear.
Trust can only be built through consistent actions that show that a person is worth handing your trust over.
What is this trust I’m talking about so much?
You trust the person who leads you to do the following:
- Have your back at all times
- You can be vulnerable around them
- They listen to your problems with a patient resolve
- They have the power to solve your problems – at least major ones
- They sacrifice their comfort to look after yours
- Every economic endeavor leads to YOUR prosperity first and their’s later
- If there’s the last piece of bread in the bag, they’ll hand it to you despite being hungrier than you
This is the same level of trust the companions had with the Prophet (PBUH) when he showed them that he had two rocks tied to his stomach instead of one like theirs’…he was always hungrier than they were, yet he fed them first and himself absolutely last.
Leaders eat last:
Trust is earned, not acquired.
How to work towards earning the trust of other people (be they Pakistani or otherwise)
Again, consistency is key.
You can’t go wrong with consistency. If you say something shitty all the time and one good thing on occasion, then people will hold the general view that you’re not a good person.
But if you say something good all the time, then people understand something different about you.
They start to realize that you’re a trustworthy person when it comes to looking after the things that matter to you the most.
Meaning, even when you say something shitty all the time, people know that you’re an unreliable person who doesn’t hold responsibility in high regard.
On the other hand, they will also know that if you’re a person who holds higher morals and idealizes responsibility by consistently showing it in your actions…they will hold you in high regard, and will defend your character – to the death if necessary.
In both scenarios, we make our lives how we want them to be.
Fulfilling, amazing, and full of excitement, or unfulfilling, depressing, and bleak.
The way you show that you can be trusted is to show this in your actions and words consistently.
When your wife/husband leaves their cell phone on the table all vulnerable do you go over and check the phone to see if they’re cheating on you or do you leave it be believing that they must have just left it out in the open because they were too tired to carry it around with them?
Do you give your wallet to your friend and expect them to only buy pizza and ice cream and then return you the full change and all the cards intact and nothing missing? Or would you not even trust them with your comb?
See it goes both ways, it cannot be that one person shows trust via consistency meanwhile you get to get away with anything you want.
For every action, there has to be reciprocation or equal amounts of “retaliation” even if that retaliation is as simple as returning the same courtesy that your spouse extends to you by giving you love and tranquility.
In order to give trust as well as earn it, you must be willing to take risks and bring more consistency in actions that build yourself and other people up instead of those that bring you and themselves down.