How to be diplomatic and avoid being defeated
Let’s start at the very foremost thing.
That’s your fear, your insanity, the quitter within you who keeps coming back to haunt you for whatever reason it sees fit.
You need to be able to fight this. How effectively you’re able to fight it will determine your success ratios.
Think of this world, this life – this process as a living piece of art.
Sun Tzu titled his book ‘The Art of War’ for a good reason!
It’s the ART of war, the ART of painting a beautiful picture with the paintbrush of your life – the ART of life itself.
You can’t ignore this fact and you certainly can’t avoid it.
For you to be able to paint that picture, you need to have/go through some realizations in life.
I’m not going to tell you what they are because I don’t know what they might be for your individual case.
I can only reveal to you a certain path that you can take to make those realizations.
Yet, most people will not do it.
I don’t know anything about how diplomats conduct their business on a daily basis.
But I do know that they have ‘the’ magic formula to get it done.
And that magic formula is being patiently impatient.
Meaning that you consistently go after that which you’re very impatient about – in a diplomatic and subtle way.
Think of getting what you want from others as a beautiful exercise of collaboration, ebb, and flow, energetic and dull phases…
And only engage in a full out war if nothing else works, and everything systematically fails you.
When your skills to communicate fail you, you have to realize that it’s no longer you, it’s the person you’re trying to interact with who’s the problem.
And that moment, and only at that moment are you allowed to chuck your nuclear weapon at them.
What it means to be diplomatic
Most people think of diplomats as being people who speak with forked tongues.
In fact, the reality is that they’re combining a beautiful symphony of words and colloquial which help establish them as a socialite and likable personality.
Believe me when I say this: you don’t like to talk to someone you don’t like, whereas you’ll always be excited to talk to someone you really, really like!
Think of an example of media persons, actors, actresses, singers etc. would you want to talk to them in a boisterous and loud tone?
I highly doubt it.
You’ll lower your wing to them so that they may recognize you and maybe even be gracious enough to take you under their wing.
Isn’t that true about yourself and those around you who admire celebrities and people of immense wealth?
Now then, can we not easily draw a comparison between them and how the diplomats of a country interact with those of another?
Of course! Hence, we can conclude that those with superior etiquettes, social skills, and communion will always come out on top in almost every situation.
So then why don’t we ever learn from our diplomat friends? Make some of them our mentors and get them to teach us how to talk, and how to walk?
Most people don’t do it because of the size of their ego and why they don’t want to seem small or appear insignificant in front of others.
This whole image thing has gotten way out of hand, and I feel like this will take some real work to reverse.
However, if the astute reader is willing to put in the effort to seek out such people and learn from them what you can, then I can see the world morphing into a better and peaceful place.
Diplomats in effect prevent many wars and conflicts.
But should their skill fails them, their entire nation has to have their backs when it comes down to war.
For instance, if a Pakistani diplomat is on a mission abroad to build a positive image of Pakistan, then the government and the nation itself has to work hard in order to make the illusion of grandeur no longer an illusion but something that’s real, simple, and wonderful.
I’m sure you can reach this conclusion by yourself, but I’ll say it again: diplomacy is an art that’s the most important aspect of your life.
The more skillful your diplomacy is, the better result you’ll get from every area of your life.
It’s okay to let it go once in a while and scream on top of your lungs and curse and spite the world – but do it alone in your own room where no one can hear you…or even if someone is hearing you, they’re your closest confidant, not someone who’ll betray you at the slightest hint of vulnerability on your part.
Simplistic ideas with major results
Ideas that are simple to implement are often the ones that get us best results.
Then why not embrace that aspect of your life?
You can easily make things complicated.
But in order to do that you always have to start simple.
You start at a point where life is simple enough to be recognized from a mile away.
Your movements will be clearly visible to everyone.
But the moment you start to make it complicated by hiding and taking cover, you’ll make things harder for people who want to try and read you.
Let’s look at what you can do to put yourself in an advantageous position 99.99% of the time.
1) Always find cover and stay hidden
The number one thing I’ve learned by talking to veterans and asking questions about their life is: take cover or die!
There’s no such thing as being bulletproof…it may have been true some 350 years ago, but with the invention of the rifle, this is not true anymore.
You can’t face your enemy head on unless you have a real death wish.
It’s the same thing in civilian life: the moment your movements are tracked, you’ll see your enemy coming at you with full speed while taking you out.
You can’t allow that. You can’t think that your enemy is weaker than you.
In fact, in most circumstances, your enemy will be a lot stronger than you are.
That’s why guns, nukes, and unarmed combat techniques exist.
Drawing on this analogy of war, we can apply it to other areas of life as well.
For instance, in business, if your opponent knows that you’re doing something that’ll potentially hurt their business, they’ll see it coming a mile away.
And as soon as they feel threatened, they’ll develop a counter to what you’re eventually going to do.
So, in order to keep your enemy guessing, build on “take cover or die” and keep your head as low as possible.
2) Mitigate loss by effectively keeping your eyes on the goal
Whatever your goal in life maybe you have to keep an eye on it at all times.
Let’s take an example from the company named Apple…
I’m using this example because it’s easy to understand and I can effectively get my point across to most people (and also to borrow Simon Sinek’s words).
Apple has been a company known for its innovation and sleek designs in all of its electronics; they do this by effectively keeping an eye on the prize.
What’s that prize? How to innovate and make products that can help people do a certain thing.
For instance, how to help teachers teach and students to learn.
Contrast that with other companies who are consistently trying to beat their competition; i.e. Apple.
[These are completely profit driven]
They don’t concentrate on making their products the best that they can be, instead, they often copy off of Apple’s design and make it into a benchmark.
And for good reason, Apple is focused on playing the long-term game whereas their competitors are looking to outdo them in the short-term.
Of course, the one playing the long-term game will eventually come out on top!
Why you ask?
Because the more you stretch out a number of resources and time available to play this game, the more opportunities you have to frustrate and weaken your enemy.
Do this until your enemy can no longer muster another attack against you; then you can easily win the situation without much resistance or losing too many assets.
3) Search and destroy
If you’ve ever noticed how the big corporations operate, you’ll come to understand a common theme in their mode(s) of operation.
They acquire any small businesses early on that have the potential to threaten their business and make it an integral part of their strategy to grow faster and bigger.
Google’s acquisition of YouTube and Facebook’s acquisition of WhatsApp is a fine example of how these acts are performed.
Google saw the potential of searching up tutorials via the use of videos and immediately acquired YouTube in order to stay ahead of the game.
Whereas Facebook acquired WhatsApp in order to keep an edge in the texting and communication world.
Both the companies follow a simple rule laid out in the Art of War – never let your enemy gain an upper hand.
There’s always something that you can do to mitigate risk and counter your opponents’ move(s).
Always remember, that the moment you cease to learn is the moment you cease to exist.
In order to keep yourself relevant in the game, you need to learn faster because there’s always room for improvement.
If Indians are attacking 3 of our provinces via a proxy war (namely: KPK, Balochistan, and Kashmir) then it’s in your best interest to counter this move with something more powerful and that which the enemy doesn’t expect.
I don’t need to lay out those plans for you, as most of you already understand what needs to be done in order to keep the enemy at bay.
But most of you won’t ever get to live up to your full potential because of the fact that you refuse to learn!
And that you refuse to act in a morally righteous and humble way.
Saying that you’re humble doesn’t make you humble, your actions and interactions with other people make them apparent so.
The most humble and curious will survive the long-term game of life – when they play their cards right.
Conclusion and what’s next…
So, we have looked at how diplomacy can literally change your life.
We’ve also looked at the fact that life itself should be treated like a mosaic or painting that’s worked on slowly and with masterful strokes.
Not every situation will be ideal or favorable to you in any way.
This is evident when we think about what might happen to the brush when we paint with it.
Perhaps having too much paint will get the brush too clogged up to use and we won’t be able to paint with it any longer.
This is similar to how some things in life work better than others, and how some things should always evolve in order to keep their relevancy in your tool kit.
For instance, the automobile is not going anywhere given the astronomical increase in transportation and human population densities.
However, by the same token horses and other animals that were used for transportation are no longer relevant.
Though they exist in the background and live their lives as they would, they cannot be used as a method of transportation ever again.
Similarly, diplomacy is an evergreen asset in your arsenal. One that would never grow old or die.
Because its need is perpetual and effervescent.
It doesn’t fade nor does it require cease of all human interaction.
Because humans will always interact with each other regardless of what happens, this skill will always be needed – no matter what happens a million years from now!
Unless of course, the entire solar system goes “ka-blewie” there’s no way that life on Earth for humans will ever cease to exist.
In order to paint this painting of life in a most effective and sustainable manner, you must look to mentors who have already drawn on their canvas with brilliant resolve.
Learn what tools they use for their life and even borrow some if at all possible.
But if you can’t, then make up your own; in order for you to do that, you must have inspiration and insight from other successful human beings.
Slow down your thoughts, focus your mind and reflect on the type of stroke that will give you the best advantage in the present situation.
And then act! Make that stroke on your canvas making sure that you won’t regret making it.
Live every day as though you need to make your painting as beautiful and as lively as possible.